You think you have it all together, but suddenly one day you don't. You think the best is in front of you, the road you've taken, supposedly no detours, and then all of a sudden you hit a wall. It can be discouraging when your best plans go awry, but you can walk away from that wall.
It may seem impossible to bounce back; it may seem that this impasse is forever.
Well, it's not. It's time to refocus your ambitions, your personal life, your history, everything that's bothering you, and remake yourself.
You have what you need within you. You have everything you need right here, right now, to abandon the path you've been on and create a new, better one.
The light within you must be visible, especially in the dark.
When you hit that wall in life, all you need to remember is that you've been through something before. You have gone through them. You too will pass through this wall. You will win. You will win. You'll be fine.
When you get there, don't forget to look back from time to time to see how far you've come. It's your "why" in the midst of it. You've done this before. So you will again.
It is not simple. But this can be done. Regardless of the circumstances, you have a once in a lifetime choice: how to respond. It has to do with attitude. A higher attitude leads to a stronger character, which means you'll bounce back better if you take things calmly.
Acquire the following mentalities for yourself and you will be free.
Here are 13 things to remember when you hit a wall in life:
1. Everything you need is within you.
When you recover from hitting a wall, you must remember that you have already come this far. Everything you need to move forward, drive, resilience, will is already inside you. You have the tools, the ability and the strength to get through this wall to the other side.
When you look inward, you can become aware of your self-worth. The outside world may disappoint or let us down, but when you look to yourself for strength, there is nothing you can't do, accomplish, or recover from.
2. Your story is not over.
Hitting a wall may seem like the end of life as you know it, and it may well be. But just because one chapter of your life is coming to an end doesn't mean your story is ending.
What appears to be a dead end is actually a new beginning. You must adapt it to your story - the story you tell yourself to overcome the challenges ahead; story about you. You can't turn back. You can't pick yourself up and just stop. You still have to find a way to move forward. It can be a simple thought: "This is not the end."
And it's not. Will not be. Not if you don't let it.
Your story will continue; in fact, it is meant to be. All you have to do is live it. You will not enjoy every second, but in the end, you will tell everything in your own way.
3. Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
You can find what you need in the mentality to start over every day. Today is the day, the day when you realize what is most important to you. You will find out how strong you can really be. You learn from a detour or dead end and start over.
Recognizing what you have and what you still have to offer will keep you from feeling like a failure. Assess how far you have come so far. See what else is left and what you can do.
Are you still alive. You are still breathing. Sometimes it's all we have and sometimes it's all we need.
4. Just come
You won't always be motivated to get past the wall, and you won't always want to put in the best effort during the day. And that's okay as long as you show up.
If you do not have the strength to solve a problem, just come, even if you do not know how it will end. We don't need to know all the results to start solving problems.
So just come. Just be there. Don't expect any answers or ideas. Don't expect to see what the future holds. One thing is certain, there will always be obstacles, but there will always be opportunities. You just have to show up to find them.
“If you can’t fly, run, if you can’t run, then walk, if you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you must keep moving forward.” — Martin Luther King Jr.
5. Find your fire
What lights up your soul? You need to use it. Find your fire when you hit the wall. Burn through.
Steve Jobs once gave an acceptance speech at Stanford where he discussed "connecting the dots." With every flame or lust for life, you begin to connect the dots. You begin to discover what makes you move, what moves you, especially at times when you feel like you have nothing left.
He says that when you follow your heart and intuition, you “somehow already know who you really want to be. Everything else is secondary.”
What sets you on fire? What can you not live without doing, being or loving?
6. Pave the way
You may have hit the wall, but somehow, somewhere, someone has already paved the way for you to get as far as you. Or maybe you are paving the way for someone else.
Find out who has achieved what you are trying to do. Or who opened the doors to get in. Realize that you are next in line.
You just need to understand that you are never alone. Before you were great men and women. You just need to see them, hear their voices, find their strengths and use them in your own way.
7. Be humble
Be humble with the vicissitudes of life. You may think you have everything, but one day you won't. It prevents us from taking everything for granted.
You may lose what you think you should be, but you will never lose what you have already done. Instead of getting angry, be humble. See the world in a new way. You weren't meant for this path, so instead of turning around, turn it around.
This one is not the easiest, because we want to always feel capable of anything. We want to soar with the wind under our wings. But it turns out that you can fail, that you also discover that you have the opportunity to start over. In failure, we find the truth that truly defines us. Everything else is icing on the cake.
So be humble. Be self-disciplined. Be true to this life. When you hit a wall, be humble.
It's not easy, but it's worth it.
8. Start over
Don't waste this time feeling sorry for yourself. It's time to start again when you hit the wall. You can only do so much by dragging your feet with your head down. You need to look up, stand up straight, stand proud - proud to be able to start over.
You don't measure your success by how easy the path was. It was how you got over what you needed to get over. If everything came easy to you, you would miss the point of it all. And that's a much bigger loss.
Your day is here to be renewed, to become who you need to be. Life will change, it's constant, and so will you. If you stayed the same all your life, you would never grow. You need growth to change and change.
Be open to renewal so that everything else will come by itself, and focus on the greatest and most important change of all, the goodness that you found an opportunity in this obstacle.
You don't need anything else but this. You may think you know, but you are free when you recognize the simplicity of life and all its value.
9 Stay Positive
It makes sense to become negative in the face of negativity. The desire to be defeated and depressed seems natural. But you are only sabotaging yourself.
"Change your thoughts, change your life" - Wayne Dyer.
Make a gratitude list every day. Chant mantras daily to reconcile with yourself.
When you look around you will want to think about the negative. Instead, train your mind to look for the positive. Repeat whatever positive you find over and over until it comes naturally to you.
Why does it work? Some might say the universe, some might say we change our brains based on the habits we form, etc., but ultimately it's about recognizing that it's not all the same. as it seems. The brain automatically wants to identify the negative. You can reprogram it just by believing. Believe in the good. See the good. Here's how it works. It always has been. You just have to look.
10. Take a deep breath.
Just because walls in life can be opportunities for growth and new direction, that doesn't mean they don't cause stress. If you hit a wall, chances are you will run into trouble. It's important to take time to take care of yourself. Take it easy while you get better. Relax, refocus and inhale. Deep breathing. Focus on the negative exit on the exhale and focus on the positive return on the inhale.
Think about what's most important. According to Meditation 101, watch thoughts, don't judge them in mindfulness meditations. This way you can focus on your breathing.
Meditation can take place anywhere and anytime. It might be in traffic. It might be in line at the grocery store. It's not just practice. This is the mentality. One that can make a big difference.
11. Change your life
It's time to find out that something is not working. So what are you doing? Stand and watch them? No, you make them move. You are changing your life. You change what doesn't work to combine what is right. You only need to start small and gradually move on to more important ones.
Everything you need is inside of you, remember? And all you need is to find your fire, your passions to connect the dots.
Don't be a passive observer in your life. Be active. Strive for victory. When you hit a wall, you can learn to climb over it. Bury your feet and start climbing. Use any ledges you can find. Use what you have to lift yourself up.
This is ingenuity.
This is firmness.
It does what is right.
12. Help others along the way
There is nothing more helpful than helping someone else with what we have been struggling with.
What you give, you get back tenfold. It gives you a reason to correct the mistakes in your life. This gives you a reason to turn the page and start living with the next chapter.
When you help others, you are less afraid of the obstacles in front of you. You remember that you are not alone. You are alive and this life is worth it. Others will inspire you with their willpower, their history. When you reach out to someone and help, you make a difference. So you haven't lost yet. This means that you must not give up.
Helping others is acknowledging the universal truth that we all deserve love and light. You, too, deserve to know what it's like to be recognized. When you help others along the way, you realize this:
“I will walk this path only once; any good that I can do, or any kindness that I can do to any person; let me do it now. Let me not delay or neglect it, for I will not go down this path again.” — Etienne de Grelle
13. Bounce back
According to Direada Reid, resilience is the act of "rebounding" or resisting pressure cracking.
There is no way back. You've come so far, too far, to just give up. It's time to bounce back.
In addition, sustainability is determined by two factors:
- strong why
- ability to adapt
When you have a solid "why", you can bounce back from an existing problem. This does not mean that you decide everything. In fact, it could mean that you are overcoming simply because you keep going for that reason. For example, Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor, said that if you have a strong enough why, you can "overcome any how."
When you adapt, you realize that you can find gratitude in any situation. This is the key to bouncing back when you hit a wall. You find that you can not only resist something, but also learn to work with it, not against it.
An excellent analogy: when a person is stuck in a current, he should not start fighting the current. They must go with the flow. Here's how to transcend circumstances and ensure survival.
You can be whoever you want to be, do whatever you want, and love whoever and whatever you want to love. It's time to restore all that you should be. It's time to bounce back. It's time to just be. Just believe. And you'll end up on the other side of that wall, looking back and thinking, "I did it, that was me."
You will get through this. I know you will.