There is always something that a person cannot change. And it's not about the supernatural and transcendent, but about ourselves. You can learn to recognize your own emotions, explain them in terms of logic, even control especially vivid manifestations of feelings. But is it possible, for example, to cancel them? Or, at will, turn irritation into joy? And, it would be very convenient to simply “put on” pleasant emotions when it is appropriate, pleasant, correct; like clothes in a closet. These rhetorical questions can be left unanswered. But it is necessary to answer another: what to do if you are a very emotional person? Let's try to understand the article.
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To begin with, it is worthwhile to calmly study the terms. It seems that everyone understands what emotionality is. But what gives us the confidence to say “I am an emotional person” about ourselves? If you think about it, all people are emotional - there is no person without experiences. But not everyone can be called emotional people. According to L. A. Karpenko’s brief psychological dictionary, emotionality is a property of a person that contains the content and dynamics of his feelings. It is clear that in this case it is worth talking about dynamics. Psychology establishes that it manifests itself in the following characteristics:
- Excitability level. Here it is worth talking about a purely physiological process in which the speed of nervous processes affects the foci of excitation in the cerebral cortex.
- Stability. How long a person is under the influence of arousal that has arisen.
- Depth of feelings. At first glance, this description seems metaphorical, but depth suggests the degree to which a person gives back to emotions. Roughly speaking, how much of yourself you put into one emotion. That is why creative people are called deeply feeling natures - they give time and skill to their emotions.
- expressiveness or the ability and need of a person to convey their emotions to others.
With a superficial assessment of others, an overly emotional person is about an expressive person. But this is not entirely true, because some people with developed expressiveness can use the broadcasting of emotions as a way of communication, an attempt to draw attention to their inner world. Such people will not have problems because "I am overreacting." If desired, they can easily control themselves.
But if you recognize yourself in the rest of the signs (or in a little of everything), you really are very emotional person.
Emotional person: is it good or bad?
To answer this question unequivocally is not only difficult, almost impossible. You should understand what personal emotionality is expressed in (the characteristics we referred to in the previous section of the article will help a lot with this). After all, this is the ability to react: if you are pleased with any ray of the sun and frustrated by every sharply thrown word. Or emotionality can manifest itself in the intensity of the reaction: it is impossible to hold back a smile or tears, not to raise your voice in a quarrel. Even external factors that cause emotions can be different - you are annoyed by noise, but you are indifferent to bright light. Before thinking “I am an emotional person, and this is good / bad,” analyze the nature of your emotionality.
So, manifesting itself in different ways, emotionality is both a positive and a negative quality. Much depends on the situation - let's remember Lilya Brik, who believed that the poet should suffer. You can’t argue: strong emotions are most often the engine of art. But life is not limited to art.
Positive | Negative |
| ability to recognize other people's emotions, empathy | hard to control yourself |
| ability to get carried away and be carried away, interest in life | experiencing negative, destructive emotions (like fear, anxiety, etc.) |
| opportunity to express emotions in art | focus on yourself and your feelings |
| the brightness of experiences, the fullness of life | adversely affects health (from headaches to neurosis) |
Understanding how emotionality provokes good and bad in a person, you can gradually learn to use this quality to your advantage. For example, sublimate strong feelings in creativity, and not pour out anger or anxiety on others. If you are a healthy and mature emotional person who is interested in beneficial manifestations of emotionality, attention to yourself and a sense of purpose will help you achieve this.
The case when emotional — This is bad
A healthy and mature person is able to cope with their emotions, but this description does not apply to everyone. Sometimes emotionality is expressed in strong, inexplicable excitability; which man can neither control nor explain. Then experts talk about emotional lability, a serious disruption in the activity of the central nervous system. The reasons for this emotionality can be psychological and physiological. Among the psychological
- deficit or overabundance of attention;
- chronic stress;
- psychological trauma;
- prolonged strong emotional stress.
Since this is a disease, you should treat your emotional state with a specialist. In the case of psychological reasons - with a psychologist, psychotherapist. A neurologist, a psychiatrist helps to fight physiological emotionality.
How to deal with emotionality?
On the negative side emotionality very hard to fight. We can learn to control our emotions when we need to, but they will still eat us up from the inside. But here are some tips from Susan David, Ph.D. and author of a book on "emotional flexibility":
- Correctly identify the cause of the reaction and think about it, and not about emotions. For example, instead of worrying about the health of your loved ones, think about how much you love them (if you care).
- Be tolerant of yourself. Do not reproach yourself for being emotional and do not try to suppress feelings. Deal with them, answer them.
- Try to move away, do not go in cycles. Think about your experiences from the outside. The wording is also important: not “it hurts me”, but “I notice that it hurts”.
Remember that an emotional person is not a sentence. Often this is a virtue. Good luck!